A lot is behind the scenes with the parent and their son or daughter. During the ride to the game the parent is telling them what to do in various situations, on the way home they are critical of their play and why they didn't do what was told on the way to the game.
I always asked my son, and daughter what they learned during the game, they would tell me, then Lori, Ryan, Taylor and I would go and get something to eat.
When coaching basketball I always asked my players how many guys are they playing against. They would say 5, I would laugh and tell them its either 7 or 8. The players asked why 7 or 8, I told them its the 2-3 Referees in the game as well, I had my players to get the loose ball for the referees, when ever the Ref handed the ball, out of bounds, free throws they better say thank you when the ball was given to them. 4th quarter with 2-3 minutes left, a questionable call hopefully would go our way because we were respectful and polite to the referees. It usually worked. JMHO